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From Mistress´ Diary part 2

July 2014

A few days ago slave B. and I had an argument. The true is that he just wanted to talk while I freaked out. He’s generally a calm person and I’m the exact opposite. He brought me new iMac, a late birthday gift that he could not afford to buy back in April due to other expenses he had at that time.

I wanted to rewrite our Mistress-slave contract to motivate the slave to help me earn my own money rather than give it to me directly in the form of regular tributes. He could achieve this through referrals and advertisements he would place on my websites, some of which would need to be built from scratch.

Unfortunately the slave was not interested to sign the new contract as he wanted to cancel the tributes altogether and immediately despite of the fact that he never completed any of the projects he was assigned in December 2012 while we were on holidays in Portugal.

I know he’s generally quite busy with work but I also know that often it is time mismanagement rather than anything else. When I first started training him, some of the session reports he was supposed to write for me were seriously delayed. At the same time he was seeing his ex girlfriend relatively often. That time could had been spent working for me. I could come with other examples like this but the point was already made. To be fair, he has done a lot of work for me over the years, including having built a few websites for me, promoting my services, book, writing the Diary and much more. One cannot expect people to always deliver, not even when those people are slaves.

However, what do you do, as a Mistress, when the slave decides to make his own rules all of a sudden? If that happens with a new slave, you just dismiss him. What do you do when the slave has been serving you very well for a few years and you have grown to like him? That is a horrible situation, one that has no solution. I have always seen the power exchange element of our relationship as the most important one, very closely followed by the extraordinary connection we seemed to have from day 1. No doubt some of the connection is linked to the power exchange itself but not all of it is. Even when we do nothing femdom related, it is still there.

The second part of the argument was also money related. The slave scolded me for having spent too much money on his credit cards recently. Although I have full access to his bank accounts, I have never actually logged in and we have not talked about his budget as much or as often as we should have. Typically I would only use the card to pay for books and cosmetics, but I did feel the need to buy some clothes and shoes for the new flat as I wanted to avoid the hassle of packing / unpacking and having to travel with a suitcase each month, taking the risk that something might be missing when needed. In the hindsight, I should had just coped with it for a few months and buy it later. In the hindsight, he should had politely asked me to stop using the cards for a while once he felt there was not enough money available. I would had understood. 

When B. asked whether we were having a professional relationship, I just lost it. I could not believe how insecure he was. I’m a short fuse person and I just ended up throwing both credit cards at his feet. I thought it was all escalating in a really bad direction so I told him to take his credit cards and the expensive birthday gift he just gave me an hour ago and to leave my house. He was somehow reluctant to leave but I assured him that we would meet the next day after I had the opportunity to calm down. Eventually he left. The iMac and the credit cards remained in my house.

The true is that it was the slave´s idea to give me the first credit card, online banking details etc. I say: Don´t give a person a box of matches to play with just to call “Fire” later. Metaphorically speaking, I could had burnt the whole house down if I wanted to. 

Some of the frustration I felt and still feel was related to the fact that the slave´s servitude is not as consistent anymore as it once was. Things like a bit of promotion on Twitter take hardly any time and are clearly beneficial for me. There was almost none of it recently. I also realized that we don´t chat on Skype very often anymore. On top of that, B. generally acts far less submissive towards me these days than he did in the past. Clearly, he is not as motivated as he used to be. I also feel that he acted too judgmental towards me without having acknowledged what had gone wrong on his side.

From Mistress´ Diary part 1

December 2013

Recently B. and myself signed a purchase contract on a large flat that is located in the greater center of Prague. It will be mostly financed through mortgage that he secured from a local bank. The slave has another mortgage on the house he lives in in The Netherlands and also pays rent for his office but we don’t travel, shop or fine dine as much as we used to so it should work out financially just fine I think.

As I already mentioned, we are much more settled down nowadays. We still have a lot of fun together but the relationship is not fueled by sessions and mind games so much anymore. In 2012 we often met twice a month, occasionally even more often than that. I very strongly felt that the slave would have had hard time to manage without me. Now it feels different. We meet every 5-6 weeks on average and there have not been any crying episodes for at least 18 months now. Although I generally don’t like needy men at all, B. never came across as needy or manipulative even when he was a complete mess emotionally. You just see people differently if you respect them I guess.

In any case the relationship still feels pretty strong. I can’t imagine that the slave would let me co-own his property if he was not sure about us, especially considering I am not financially participating although I have invested a lot of time and efforts to make this happen, from checking offers to going to viewings, translating at bank, communicating with estate agents, gas company, electricians, furniture sellers, insurance company, setting up direct debits and standing orders etc.

Shortly after the contract had been signed, I moved some of my stuff in. “Welcome to your new home, Mistress”, the slave said and handed me a bunch of keys. We knew I would not live there permanently but would visit whenever B. was in town and of course had the liberty to be there even when he was away if I needed to or wanted to.

May 2015

The slave and I spent whole week together in The Netherlands this month. That is very unusual as we typically only spend a long weekend together every 6 weeks or so these days. B.´s parents went on holidays and they wanted him to house-sit their villa. I´m not sure but I think it was even their idea that we stay there together. It was very kind of them to allow me to join B. in any case, especially as they have never met me.

The slave picked me up at the airport as he always does. We hugged and headed to the parking lot. It was about half an hour drive to the village where his parents live. B. showed me around the modern ground floor first. I noticed fresh flowers in a vase in the kitchen. He usually gets me some. Allegedly I am the only woman he has ever bought flowers for. He really knows what to say to make me feel special. Next we headed to the basement where there was a good size swimming pool. I could not wait to take a dip. We moved upstairs where B. showed me my bedroom and bathroom. Everything was prepared for me by B.´s mum including towels and toiletries. Wow. I was impressed.

The slave had just replaced his no longer reliable Alfa Romeo Brera with a newish Toyota GT86. He has a black one while mine is metallic orange. Unfortunately that made money even tighter than before so we ate mostly in and focused on free or affordable activities such as museums, outdoor photoshoots, swimming in the pool etc. However, the slave suggested that we go to a huge fashion outlet one day. Probably not the best idea given the circumstances. Fortunately he did not spend a lot of money there as I only liked one shirt.

B. had put a lot of efforts into organizing the photoshoots. He asked a well-off friend of his if I could pose with his Maserati and Cesna. I was excited when the friend agreed. As slave and I talked about this upcoming photoshoot, I joked that perhaps I should make his wealthy older friend my sugar daddy. B. and I have very similar sense of humour and we always get each other´s jokes. Apparently not this time as he was afraid I might be serious! WTF?? I sometimes say I have made the wrong choice and, in fact, should be dating B.´s father or brother as they both have higher salaries than B. does. Interestingly, he never thought I might mean that.

Special anniversary

In June I will celebrate a very special anniversary – 10 years on the femdom scene! Back in 2007 I never imagined I could possibly last this long – the unpredictibility of the income, the timewasting morons, the insanity of some of the requests, the widespread misconceptions, the entitlement of the average “submissive” male as well as the frequent lack of respect or, occasionally, even plain rudeness. Not to mention the very low prestige of the profession itself.

Yet, ten years later, I am still here. While the first half of my Mistress career had been driven more by the economical factors, curiosity and perhaps some “f*ck you society” attitude, in the recent years it was mostly the great dynamics of my complex femdom arrangements and relationships and the posh lifestyle provided by my selected few personal slaves as well as special clients that made me stay.

Those 10 years have been fantastic in overall, with some downs and many ups. I got to travel extensively in Europe, visited US – both the West and the East coast and was repeatedly served up to very high standards in the Middle East. I have appeared in videos for a dozen of respected femdom websites such as The English Mansion, Woman Worship, OWK and many more.  I self-published my memoir The Diary of a Kinky Girl that has been getting very positive reviews.

Although I have considered retirement at some stages of my career, final decision has not been made yet and I am likely to stay for a few more years.

If anyone wants to treat me on this special occasion, I would love one of the gift vouchers listed here.

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How I like to relax while my slaves toil…

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Problems with fakers

I have found quite a few people using texts stolen from my website recently so I can only guess how many fakers actually parasite on me this way. If you come across such stolen content whether texts, photos or videos, kindly drop me a line so that I can take action.

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This retro picture is one of my first professional ones (taken in 2007). 

Talking about fakers and scammers, I would also like to urge all financial slaves NOT to send money or gifts to a fin domme who doesn´t have any history or reputation on the internet. You have no control over where your money goes if you tribute the first pretty face you stumble on.

Here´s an excerpt from a comment left in my Real Deal Slave FetLife group by one such naive man:

…In profiles on Collarme and Facebook there are many men pretending to be females. It has become a way of making money in the region where I live. I have lost a lot of money this way, paying people who promised contact but simply did not respond after the tribute has been recieved.

(Text has been slightly rephrased.)

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Do not tribute me through any website / online profile that clearly doesn´t belong to me. There are scammers using my pictures to advertise fetish chat services that I do not provide. They even try to collect large tributes in my name. Do not fall into such trap.

If you would like to tribute me, click here.

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One of the biggest offenders is Lauren Fulbrook, address: Thornfield, AxesLane, Redhill, RH1 5QL, UK, email: Mrsfulbrook@gmail.com FB: https://www.facebook.com/tiafulbrook, https://www.facebook.com/laurentia.fulbrook who dully copied ALL my website texts including highly personalized lines and is therefore matter-of-factly pretending to be myself. She uses some stolen pictures too.

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I now take printscreens of such fraudulent websites so that I have a proof on hand anytime.

My webmaster works very hard to have such fake sites closed down but it takes a lof of time and energy. Nevertheless we will not stop chasing these appalling scammers.

 

Another visit of Berlin (August)

If you missed your recent chance, you will be able to spoil and pamper me in Berlin again in a few months time (August 21st-22nd). Shopping, fine dining, sessions and more!

Book your slot early as I expect to be busy with my German fans.

**An up front deposit is a must.**

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Serve me in London (July 23rd-24th)

This is a rare an exciting chance to serve me in London on July 23rd as a shopping slave (make sure your budget is at least 400 GBP + ) or on July 24th as a dinner slave.

Worship and other sessions also available – email for details.

****My availability is very limited so book early.***

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My favourite toys

These are two of my favourite toys that I use with my most fortunate personal slaves only. The dilemma is obvious – to ride his strap-on or to ride his gag?

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